Goodnight Sweet Love

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After dealing valiantly for 6 months with pancreatic cancer, Gregory M. Bokor died peacefully at his home in Cape Elizabeth, Maine on June 2, 2013.

Born in Washington, D.C. on October 8, 1968 to George and Birgit Bokor , Greg earned a BA in Biology from Hood College in 1995 and subsequently researched terrapins in Cremona.  After working as a carpenter for his brother, George, Greg made a career in the D.C. area as project manager in high-end construction.

Greg married Maggie Hickman in Edgewater, MD on July 27, 2003. They moved to Cape Elizabeth in 2007, where Greg continued his profession as owner of Matrix Construction. Greg had accepted a new position with Red Phoenix construction in Topsfield, MA just months before being diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer.

Greg leaves his deeply beloved wife, Maggie, and dog, Sam. Survivors also include his father, George Bokor of Clarksburg, MD; sister Solveig Locke of Middletown, MD: brother George Bokor and his wife Sherri of Boyds, MD; in addition to nieces and nephews Lauren Bokor; Hannah, Nick, Andrew and Jamie Locke.

Known for his bright smile and willingness to help, Greg was a kind, generous and gentle soul who touched the lives of all who met him. He had a deep appreciation for the world of nature and a childlike curiosity about is revelations. He enjoyed hiking and kayaking with Maggie, whom he simply adored.

He shared with Maggie the dream of a simple, open life in Maine; and despite the devastating blow of his diagnosis, Greg’s courage, grace and humility drew an incredible outpouring of love and support from an extraordinary community of friends and family who shared Greg’s  journey.  In Greg’s own words, their many acts of kindness “deepened my relationships, brought me to a lighter place, and changed my perspective on life more than anything I’ve ever experienced.”

A celebration of Greg’s life is being planned for some time in the future.In lieu of flowers, please go to Loving Greg to send a brief story, remembrance or message.

Greg’s Story: In December, our friend Greg Bokor was diagnosed with Stage IV pancreatic cancer–an aggressive cancer, a deadly cancer. It is advanced, has metastasized in his liver, and is beyond surgery.

Chemotherapy is the only medical treatment available for Greg’s cancer, so, as part of a multifaceted approach toward total healing and recovery, Greg has begun the most aggressive course of chemotherapy available for him. Greg and Maggie are determined to do everything they can to reclaim Greg’s health, and have assembled a team of professionals that includes a nutritionist, an acupuncturist, a naturopathic doctor, and Greg’s forward-thinking primary care physician.

This experience comes to Greg and Maggie as a great and sudden surprise. Greg characteristically takes the most positive approach to everything in life and has always lived an active and healthy lifestyle.  He is facing this challenge with a courageous, hopeful, and open spirit.

Greg is on medical leave from work because of the extremes of the treatment. The chemotherapy takes 6 or 7 days out of every two weeks, as Greg receives and then recovers from the treatment. The cost of the adjunct therapies along with their loss of stable income mean that Greg and Maggie must reach out to the community for financial help. Since April, they have begun to live off the kind donations from their community. Their savings are gone and their need is now.

We have one chance to move Greg toward health and wish to take advantage of every precious moment. Anything that you can do to help will be greatly appreciated.

4 thoughts on “Goodnight Sweet Love

  1. I wrote a long story about loving Greg, how I met him and how he was one of the greatest human beings ever but it got lost in the transmitting. Love you Maggie. Bessie

  2. We all danced in a room filled with energy and joy, time and time again. Maggie brought us all together to “celebrate” ourselves and those around us..and to vibrate in the joy of her Nia classes. How lucky to know you Greg, and to have that absolutely beautiful, glowing memory to always be the face of Greg, is heavenly…Again, I thank you. I love you. And Maggie, thank you, I love you.

    Kelly G

  3. I remember Greg’s smile in Nia class with Maggie, making eye contact as we danced around the room! Greg always had an easy smile, I imagine he still does, wherever he is. In a class with few men, I recall admiring Greg’s courage, and what an inspiration he was to me. His courage through this whole illness, in living as in dying, comes across strongest to me right now. Choosing a celebration of life… What a beautiful man! How lucky we are to have known him!

  4. I remember meeting Greg in Maggie’s wonderful Nia classes in South Portland. I thought he was so brave, “cool” and daring to enter into a room full of women and be so “ok” with it.

    I remember going to dinner with my husband Steve along with Greg and Maggie at The Great Lost Bear. On the way home I was commenting on how very smart and funny Greg was. He had us all laughing. Such a nice guy.

    It is a real gift to be able to put people at ease when you meet them and Greg had that gift for sure.

    Sending peace to all who knew and loved him.

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